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Engagements & Greetings From Montego Bay, Jamaica

Hi all! I have safely arrived and have worked almost two weeks now on the cruise ship. Things are going well. I especially enjoyed our Mardi Gras set last night, where the band and I performed upbeat Mardi Gras tunes while the crowd danced and caught beaded necklaces being thrown down to them from the floors above.

Currently, I'm sitting at a seafood place in Montego Bay, Jamaica and wanted to share with readers that last night I attended an engagement party between our hotel director and one of our dancers. The hotel director is Indian, the dancer British! I haven't had the opportunity to ask them the questions I'd like to - I especially wonder if the girl has yet to visit India or meet his family, and what changes she foresees in her future if any. From what I've been told, the engagement came after only three months of dating, which I find interesting...but I will have to confirm this.

This isn't such a rare thing on cruise ships since Indians make up much of the staff and crew and we all live in such close quarters. On my last ship there were multiple Indian/"Westerner" relationships as well. Not me though, as much as I enjoy impressing them with my impeccable Hindi, -not! - although, the other day when I asked a guy from Delhi "App ka naam kya hai?" he smiled from ear to ear and I think even blushed before telling me "you did that so well!" But as I was saying, although there are multiple opportunities on ships, I still am in no mood to begin another intercultural relationship.

Signing off now, hope you're all doing great!

MDG

Home Sweet Home

That's right dear readers! I am back home, sweet, home from my six month singing contract aboard the Carnival Cruise Ship Pride. I am amazed that in my absence the blog continued on so strong! Over 500 comments on one post?! Wow!

During this time I had very limited internet access and therefore was unable to be the best blogger/monitor so my apologies if emails and comments went unanswered or anything else may have unraveled. On the other hand, it was a great relief to spend so much time away from the computer. I needed the break, trust me!

If you want to know anything about my experience working and living aboard the ship don't hesitate to ask. What I will say here is that it was an amazing time, one in which I got to live out my dream of being paid to do what I ultimately love the most; singing! I met some wonderful people who will remain long-lasting friends. I became better at my craft and I got to travel and live lavishly. What more could a girl ask for?

Ok, so what must be on your mind even more than the cruise ship experience is what's up with MIM and I. Am I right? Of course, this still is a blog about Indian Love! If you have been following for some time you will remember towards the end we were experiencing problems in our relationship. The differences we initially used to love about each other started to take a toll on us. Added to this, we both were struggling financially. When the ship opportunity came along, I accepted eagerly but of course this meant being far away from MIM. We lost touch over the duration of the contract, mostly because his way of moving on is shutting down communication completely. It is not my way to handle things but, what can I do? I've left him alone. Hopefully, life is treating him well and he is very happy. As far as I know he's still here in town, only a few minutes away from me currently, but I am not planning on contacting him while I am home. I know it's what he would want and, it's probably for the best.

I miss him terribly and think about him a lot, that will never change. As I recently stated on my "Welcome!" page, after much deliberation I've decided to keep My Indian Love active even considering recent events in our relationship. I still have a soft spot for all things Indian and believe I always will. I still enjoy reading your comments and am grateful to those who continued visiting my blog and keeping it active during my absence. I will not have a huge presence on this blog but I invite you all to take part in the forum I will soon input and to consider writing articles/posts of your own that could be published for all to see. To do this, click on contact me in the tabs section.

It's good to be home and thanks again for being faithful readers!

Indians on Ships

There are so many Indians working on cruise ships these days. I say "these days" as I don't recall as many six years ago - which was the last time I worked for Carnival. Of course, it may be because six years ago I simply hadn't noticed as much as I do now, given the circumstances have changed. Many of them work in security, others as wait staff or in the gift shop, and all over. We even have Samir, an Indian magician on board. I enjoy practicing my (very limited) Hindi with them. Many of the Indians are married with families back home that they are supporting from afar. They go back to India and their families after 6-9 months when their contract ends. When asking them if they would like to return home for good, many of them have said they prefer working on ships and will continue the lifestyle.

The Taj Mahal … Lounge?

Recently I was browsing the Carnival Cruise Line website to learn more about the ship I will be singing on, The Pride.

And then, I saw this: What you are looking at my friends, is the Taj Mahal Lounge. Believe it or not this is the name of the lounge I will be doing much of my performing in.

Just when you thought I was going to be taking a break from all things Indian...

Isn't God a great practical joker?

Babies, the Documentary

I just finished watching the documentary, Babies. From the moment I first caught the previews on TV, I knew I would love this film. And I really, really did! The film follows four babies for a year of their lives, all living in different parts of the world: Mongolia, Tokyo, Namibia, and San Fransisco. Watch the official trailer here.

Why oh why is there no Indian baby?! I guess that is the only downfall of the film. ;)

It's a 'play now' feature on Netflix. Otherwise, you may have to find it online or rent it. And once you watch it, I would love to know who your favorite baby is. Psst, mine is Ponijao!

The New Recruits – Can Capitalism Save the World?

If you have Netflix, you most likely know about their play now feature. This is where I get to watch a lot of documentaries. I can't get enough of them. I watched one last night called The New Recruits - Can Capitalism Save the World? which aired on PBS in June, 2010. I was very interested to discover one of the recruits sent to India was a woman - a tall, blonde, California woman named Heidi - and I was eager to watch her experience.

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Heidi

The concept of this movie is instead of giving charity to the poor, you sell things to the poor which generates profit. In this case the recruits were selling clean toilet facilities in Kenya, LED lights in India, and drip irrigation technology in Pakistan. It's a concept I have never heard of before, and if you're scratching your head wondering how the poor have enough money to purchase these goods, well, so was I. And, in most cases, they didn't.

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An Indian man tries out an LED light with solar charger.

Heidi was the only woman featured in the documentary and seemed to experience the most hardships as well. While the men were upbeat and positive and seemed to be enjoying their respective placement countries, images of Heidi were always quite depressing, like one scene where she is shown reading a newspaper with the headline, 34 yr old MBA student gang raped in Noida, near where Heidi worked and lived.

"It's really disturbing," Heidi says. "Not surprising, not surprising. It's not a safe place to be a woman, here in India. It's not a safe place to be a woman."

Written in her bio on the PBS website, Heidi says, "It’s as though India kisses my cheek one minute and slaps me across the face the next.”

I was so surprised to see a strong woman with a MBA in business from Standford University having so much trouble in India. In each shot she appeared more worn out and overwhelmed, a completely different Heidi from the one we were presented in the beginning of the film.

But while watching her struggles, I actually became more accepting of my own failed experience in India. I didn't wish for Heidi to have a bad experience - I actually thought it would be quite the opposite for her - but it was nice not to feel so alone; an intelligent woman who was provided eight weeks of preparation before making the trip also found India to be a struggle in many of the same ways I did. She helped me not to feel so alone and bad about myself after so many commenters on this blog attacked and hurt me for the emotions I was expressing while in India.

Netflix reviewers didn't cut Heidi or Christina, another white woman working in her office, any slack either; "I hate the two white blondes who are like type A personalities," one person wrote. "Their portrayal of India as male dominated and rapists and lawless land is very wrong. I think they have personality problems and lack insight."

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Christina (left) and Heidi in Uttar Pradash, India

You know what I think it is? I think it's being a woman. The men sent to Pakistan and Kenya appeared to be relaxed and enjoying their experience, while Heidi and Christina were covering their heads to hide their blonde hair and having to always play it safe whether it be traveling or following a curfew.

I thought this documentary was really good, and I enjoyed getting to see new ideas people were implementing to help the poor. I had no idea it would have such an effect on me, and it wasn't the effect I expected it would be. I highly recommend you watch it. If you don't have Netflix, you can watch it on PBS for free here. I would love to hear your take on the film.

Home…But Not For Long.

I reached home from Boulder Sunday at midnight. There was a crispness in the air and leaves have already begun falling from their trees. Instantly I craved pumpkin pie, apple cider, hay rides, fall clothes, knee length boots, Haunted Houses, etc. :)

The very next day MIM and I made plans to see each other (of course)! In the morning I brought him some of my mom's awesome French Toast with pecans and natural syrup and he happily ate it up. We spent the rest of the day doing some of our favorite things together that I missed so much, like having lunch in the park, sitting together at the bookstore sharing a coffee as he does his school work and I browse through books, and watching a movie together late at night. And, of course, talking! He never wanted me to stop telling him about India. It's amazing how now we both can relate when it comes to India. It feels - wonderful. I urge anyone in an intercultural relationship to go visit their loved one's country. The two of you will form such a deep bond from it.

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MIM took this photo of me in the park. It was a beautiful fall day. I couldn't wait to wear my cowboy boots again!

I believe I've mentioned part of the reason I chose to go to India was to give MIM some space as he finishes up Grad school. Also, so he could save money as, when I'm around we go out and eat out way too much. I'm basically just a bad influence which turned out to be very true this morning when he skipped three classes to spend more time with me. We are really dangerous together...nothing gets accomplished!

So, I'm both happy and sad to report that another event will pull me away from my MIM. Once reaching Boulder from India, I was offered a job singing aboard a cruise line. I couldn't pass up the opportunity to get paid for doing what I love. I have previously performed on a cruise ship and was itching to get back for some time now. Being away from MIM AGAIN sucks of course but, seriously, for him to concentrate on his studies and for us both to save money, this is best. We're going to jam pack all our favorite activities and hugs and kisses into another month's time and then I will be gone again for at least 6 months to a year.

I don't know what will become of this blog, unless you're really that interested in knowing what it's like to live and work aboard a cruise ship! To be completely honest with you, I don't know what will become of MIM and I, either. As much as we love each other we're starting to become very practical. It feels down to the wire now. We're getting older and we're starting to talk seriously about things like marriage and raising children. When I was in India, I actually started to think more about my childhood memories and the traditions my family upheld together. MIM wasn't thrilled when I recently asked for a Christian wedding in America and our children to be baptized for the tradition of it. His response made me realize everything was fine when it was I who compromised. When it was time for him to compromise on his religion and traditions, his answer was, "it won't work then".

We were silent for a bit but I can't say either of us were angry at the other. It felt like a complete adult decision that even though we love each other so much and can spend every minute of the day together, when it comes to marriage and raising a family and practicing religion we both want very different things. I know many people have mentioned this to me on my blog and I brushed it off like it was all so simple. Well, it was simple when it was I who gave in to anything MIM wanted. Now that I have requests of my own, I see that it is him who won't budge - for now at least. I think we're both a little peeved at the other, for he sees me as changing my needs and desires on him after almost 3 years together, and I see him as not being fair.

India had a huge effect on me. So for those of you who do go see your loved one's country like I suggested, be prepared to learn things about yourself you never imagined. Living in India made me value everything I had come to take for granted in America. This includes my family, traditions, and the kind of childhood I would want for my children. It's made me really question if I want to step so far outside of my comforts. Yes, for the first time it's made me question if MIM is right for me after all.

On the Road to Mysore Part 2

Ok, no more grumbling and back to the trip to Mysore! Although, I won't promise that one or two grumblings here and there may find their way in somehow... ;)

First, I can't leave out that we traveled during India's Independence Day weekend. So the road to Mysore was packed full of buses - that were packed full of people. Our driver told us that political parties pay everyday people Rs.200 to travel to Mysore for the parade. These people cheer and wave flags for their designated political person and then are bussed back home in the evening. These buses were another reason the trip took a bit longer to complete. They were also the reason that the Brindavan Gardens, where our hotel was located and we spent the first night, was overly packed full of people.

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Brindavan Gardens and our hotel, The Royal Orchid, in the background.

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The garden and the dam shot from hotel balcony.

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Although the gardens appear quite packed now, it got even more so as time went on!

After we arrived at the hotel we ate, freshened up, and headed out into the gardens. After some time our driver met up with us and the three of us finished off the night with a dancing fountain show. For an American having seen my own share of such things, it was nothing to write home about. (or shall I say, write in a blog post about!) But what is worth mentioning is how the Indians went crazy for it! I was very humbled at this moment to see how many Indian families traveled so far, reached the fountains early enough to grab a good seat, waited ever so patiently, and clapped and cheered once the show began.

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The small blue pool in the distance which holds the dancing fountain show is what everyone gathered to see.

The next day our only plan was to see the Mysore Palace. People had told us seeing all of the palace would take an entire day but this turned out not to be true. In less then 3 hours we were done and unsure what to do with all our extra time. We found a place to eat, browsed a silk shop, and then decided to start the 3 hour trip home.

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The gorgeous palace.

But let's not jump ahead! The Mysore Palace was beautiful and my favorite stop on the trip. What girl wouldn't like a palace? But this is where some grumbling comes in: to see the palace, as well as all the other sites we had taken in so far, there are always two admission prices. One is for Indians and the other for foreigners. Foreigner's prices can be doubled or tripled. In the palace's case, I paid ten times the price an Indian payed to get in. Now, I can't help but wonder what an outright uproar it would be if America did the same thing to its foreigners. Perhaps India feels since foreigners don't pay taxes we should pay more for such historical sites - understandable. But I even had to pay more if I wanted to take a "joy ride" on an elephant. Really India?? grumble grumble...

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The elephant "joy ride" located on the palace grounds.

Now back to the beautiful palace. Because I payed so much more, I guess they thought I deserved an audio tour. So after taunting "na na na na na naaaa" to my Indian friend, I put on my head phones and took the tour in style. I would simply pause the recording and relate what I was hearing to my friend. Also, most places you visit in India require you to take your shoes off. This was definitely one of them. It takes a bit of getting used to - roaming around barefoot, especially when men won't stop spitting everywhere!

But the palace was amazing and my only wish was that the tour lasted longer - that's how good it was. Again because it was Independence Day and a Sunday, the palace was packed. Sometimes I felt herded through the rooms. I would recommend visiting on a much slower day to not feel rushed.

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Outside the palace, in my new long kurta!

A quick story for all the girls planning on coming to India and roaming around alone...I have been attached to my friend's hip the entire time I have been here so far. Until I start teaching and have to walk to the school on my own, I plan to keep it that way. While outside the palace, my friend walked ahead to roam the grounds as I decided to rest and sit and wait for his return. Not two seconds after he left me to myself, I was bombarded by men. First a group of men asked if they could have a picture with me. Fine, I let them. Then another man, not from the group, appeared and stood right next to me asking me where I was from, and "your name, please?", on and on until I said I had to go, and walked away quickly towards my friend. Now, I'm not saying any of these men would hurt me, obviously that wasn't their plan. But, if you don't care for such attention then just beware if you plan on traveling alone.

So that completes our trip to Mysore. Make sure you check out the dancing fountain video I've included. I also took tons of videos on the drive home, but that's for another day!

On the Road to Mysore

**I'm making our trip to Mysore a two part series because there is so much to say and show to you. For this post, I'll concentrate on the drive to Mysore and the stops we made along the way. :)

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Our Saturday began early and without power. Without power there is no way to heat our water, so I took a crisp shower before getting ready in the dark. (Yes, there was some grumbling!) We hired the same cab/driver we have been using since arriving in Bangalore, as he's about our age, a good driver (sometimes a little too speedy!), and we took a liking to him. He doesn't speak much English, but he can speak Hindi, Telugu, and Kannada among others, so I can only communicate with him through my friend as interpreter.

The Travel

The drive to Mysore is about 3 hours. Because we stopped for breakfast and saw sights along the way, the trip instead took 6! On our way out of our development, I saw a young man kick a dog. So for the first few minutes I sat seething in my seat. A little further down the road, there was a man dressed as a woman in complete sari and jewelry and everyone at the stop signal was giving him money. Even our driver did the same. The man wasn't begging but more like expecting to be handed the money. So I asked our driver, "why did you give him money"? And our driver's response was that if he didn't, the person would cast a curse on him, therefore most people give money to be safe rather than sorry. I then asked, did you know that was a man? And he answered, "it's neither one or the other". With those broad shoulders, square jaw, and muscular arms, I'd say he was definitely all man. But hey, what do I know?

The rest of the trip went off without a hitch. I really enjoyed having my eyes glued to the window and trying my best to take everything in although there is NO possible way you can take in everything here in India. There is just too much going on and most of it we as foreigners cannot understand. It's true though, you can never possibly get bored looking out a car window in India. Whether it's a family of four on a scooter, bullock carts passing by, men peeing on the side of the road, passengers hanging on for their dear lives outside and on top of speeding trucks; there is always something to see that you may have never seen before. Seriously, I didn't even want to take my eyes off the road for two seconds in fear I may miss something new, especially since this was my first time seeing the countryside.

Sites Along the Way

We stopped about an hour into our trip to have breakfast. It seemed to be a very popular roadside stop by how busy the place was. We decided on the buffet and had a truly delicious breakfast for only Rs.80 ($1.50) -all while watching monkey's goof around!

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Our breakfast buffet spot.

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The monkeys were literally four feet in front of us as we ate!

Ranganathaswamy Temple

A couple hours later we came to our first sightseeing spot as suggested by our driver: Ranganathaswamy Temple. This became my first experience being bombarded by street peddlers. As soon as I exited the car they were there shoving things in my face. One guy even pleaded with me to get on his horse and let him take me the 100 steps to the temple. When you say "no, thank you" to an item a peddler is shoving towards you, he simply exchanges the item for another he his holding and you suddenly find yourself being followed saying "no, thank you, no, thank you," over and over again.

Along with the peddlers are the beggars. On our way back to the car, a small, very dirty girl came running up to me with a blanket wrapped around her and her hand outstretched yelling "madam! madam! madam!" continuously. She followed me until I reached into my purse and handed her a few coins. It's such a hard sight to see. And although I feel incredibly sorry for the beggars, especially the children, I soon discovered it is them plus the peddlers that make sightseeing a mentally and emotionally exhausting experience!

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Ranganathaswamy Temple

Colonel Bailey's Dungeon

Very near to the temple is Colonel Bailey's Dungeon. We exited the car, tried our best to avoid the peddlers, and once making it into the dungeon, an older man jumps up and immediately starts giving us a tour in broken English. He follows us around explaining this and that (all the while not knowing how much of it is true or not!) and at the end of this "tour" he asks for payment. Of course we didn't request him to give us such a tour but, what can you do? We handed him money and walked away. I was told this is a usual occurrence at such tourist spots. A local will hang out and give "tours" for money - without of course, asking whether you even wanted one or not! My friend always says to such things: "this is how a billion people survive in India".

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Colonel Bailey's Dungeon

Gumbaz

Next up was Gumbaz, the mausoleum of Tipu Sultan and his mother and father. Again we were given a "tour". Also, here we had to take our shoes off and pay for them to be kept while we roamed around.

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Gumbaz

The Sangam River

Our last attraction before getting to Mysore was the Sangam River, where two rivers meet and is considered to be a holy spot. We were feeling thirsty, so we ordered what has become one of my favorite drinks here, freshly squeezed cane juice. They serve it to you in glass or plastic cups. You stand and drink, and return the cup.

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Sangam River

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Sweet cane juice squeezed right before your eyes!

Because we didn't know the places our driver would take us, (I actually didn't even know we were making stops along the way - surprise!) we didn't have the chance to first learn about their history. I made it a project for myself that as soon as there is time, to read up on everything we saw on the trip. If you are also looking for more information, the links I included should lead to some, the rest is up to you!

We got to Mysore tired and a little overwhelmed but once rested and refreshed, headed out to take in even more sights. Those will come later! If you are traveling to Mysore, I highly recommend you make a stop at these places plus more. Here's a map that should help:

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Quick Update!

We arrived home from Mysore last night and crashed. I developed a headache that turned into a migraine from the long, jerky car ride and from staring out the window taking in all I could, even though I knew looking out the window always makes me sick!

In about 2 hours I am attending an orientation for volunteer English teachers. I will be teaching grade school kids at a school not far from my home. When I get back, I'm preparing a big blog with lots of photos of our trip! Can't wait to share my trip with you!

Dubai In Pictures

I've been meaning to post a blog about the two days spent in Dubai on our way to India. We were without internet and I was writing things down in a word doc as we went along but, call me lazy, I just feel like posting the pics and giving a quick description!

Dubai was hot hot hot! I liked it just OK, I never did quite care for the desert. I was very happy to land in India to much cooler weather and greenery. Now, I miss Dubai's food, which was always fresh and so tasty, and large amounts for such little money.

Dubai is definitely worth visiting for the experience. There are many tourist attractions to be had but I like to see how local people live. So we skipped the water parks and safari adventures and just roamed around - which sometimes can be the most adventurous way to go!

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Near to the Dubai Creek

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Boats like these lined the entire Dubai Creek loading and unloading goods. The workers from what I could tell were all Indian.

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The very first place we ate. I wanted to eat with the locals and for the food to be authentic Arabic. We had an amazing meal of hummus and shawarma here!

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For one dirham, we rode this boat full of workers across the creek at night.

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Roaming around the Gold Souk.

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Jumeirah Beach

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Jumeirah Beach. The water was as hot as the air outside.

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Shot from the top of the Burj Khalifa - the tallest building in the world.

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Shot from the top of the Burj Khalifa - the tallest building in the world.

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Another great place off the beaten path. I love shawarma!

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My mouth is watering just looking at this photo! Dubai food was amazing!