Hi all! I have safely arrived and have worked almost two weeks now on the cruise ship. Things are going well. I especially enjoyed our Mardi Gras set last night, where the band and I performed upbeat Mardi Gras tunes while the crowd danced and caught beaded necklaces being thrown down to them from the floors above.
Currently, I'm sitting at a seafood place in Montego Bay, Jamaica and wanted to share with readers that last night I attended an engagement party between our hotel director and one of our dancers. The hotel director is Indian, the dancer British! I haven't had the opportunity to ask them the questions I'd like to - I especially wonder if the girl has yet to visit India or meet his family, and what changes she foresees in her future if any. From what I've been told, the engagement came after only three months of dating, which I find interesting...but I will have to confirm this.
This isn't such a rare thing on cruise ships since Indians make up much of the staff and crew and we all live in such close quarters. On my last ship there were multiple Indian/"Westerner" relationships as well. Not me though, as much as I enjoy impressing them with my impeccable Hindi, -not! - although, the other day when I asked a guy from Delhi "App ka naam kya hai?" he smiled from ear to ear and I think even blushed before telling me "you did that so well!" But as I was saying, although there are multiple opportunities on ships, I still am in no mood to begin another intercultural relationship.
Signing off now, hope you're all doing great!
MDG
Hey MDG,
Even though you talk so much about not looking, an especially not looking for an Indian, I guess that’s what you really want. So dont hesitate, just give it a second go
No MDG,
Don’t do it. Not worth it. Indian Mothers are impossible people, no matter what the religion they follow. They won’t let anything “bad” happen to their boys, even if that “bad” is probably the best thing that could happen to their boys and them.
This unsolicited advice is coming to you from an Indian man whose Mother slams the phone down if he even mentions that he just *met* or *looked at* an American girl in the US whom he thinks could be a good life partner for him because he felt some connection. He is educated in a top 5 US school, never had a girl in his life and worked his butt off, always concerned about others first, and last of all not to mention quite attractive. Never mind the fact that he is now close to 30 and still has to watch people riding roughshod over his genuine desires and listen to people telling him he is a fool.
Why love and then suffer? I’d rather stay a bachelor all my life than make a girl suffer by liking her and making me like her, and make my Mother “suffer” because I liked a girl whom She thinks is not “correct” for me. Well guess what, I’m not marrying any girl my Mother thinks is “correct’ for me, even if she has stellar qualities. It has now become a matter of my dignity and taking pride in my choice and living with its rewards and consequences. I respect and love my Mother, but She is wrong, and I won’t side with wrong. I’m listening only to myself from now on. If it means I’ve to die alone so be it.
So MDG, marry a good non-Indian. Live your life well. Don’t be encumbered and don’t listen to the lies Indian men sweetly tell you. Don’t trust them at all. Now I don’t expect anyone to trust me also, because I am doomed anyway with the kind of people around me. To hell with Indians. Their glorious past died long ago and so are all the ideals written in their ancient texts. They are the biggest hypocrites on this earth of today.
- A totally flustered Indian man.
I was a bit cross when I posted the message above. Sorry if it offended anyone.
MDG, if you find a good man, that’ll be all that is needed. Not all Mums are opaque, and not all sons are good. But some of them are good so you just need to find a good-good combination. That’s all.
And, in reality, there is no such thing as a bad Mother. A Mother is always good. She undergoes so much pain to bring us into this world and then rear us well and with unparalleled love. Any Mother in any race, any species is like that. It’s just that I am hopeless in getting certain things done the right way. My bad. I’m a bad son and a bad man for having said the things I said.
Sorry the additional spam. Take care, have a good day!
Regards,
PS – All you students who read up zoology, don’t gang up on that race/species statement. I know you know what I mean.
I dont think many indian guys are intersted in intercultural relationships.
Indian culture is so unique & deep, not many Indian guys would want an intercultural marriage. Not saying that white/other race women are not pretty. But its very difficult. Why would you want to add another burden to marriage, which already has normal burdens. My advice to especially white woman interested in Indian men, do yourself a favor, and find a white man/ or a black man. Indian men are not your cup of tea.
LOL, any engagement on a cruise ship is doomed to failure. Cruise ships provide a fantasy. Once the cruise is over, so is the engagement.