Lately I've been hearing a lot about relationships between American women and Indian men not working out and I've been asked for advice or my opinions on the matter. Truthfully, I don't feel well equipped to answer such things. I met MIM very unexpectedly and simply got lucky I guess. I hadn't done any research online, I hadn't ever met anyone who dated an Indian, (come to think of it I had never even met an Indian before), and so I didn't know the general opinion of Indian men as significant others. Perhaps if I did know things beforehand, I would have given MIM a harder time, questioning what his long term plans were, wondering if there were alternative motives and such. To this day, he has never given me any reason to.
My experience with an Indian man has been amazing and I would recommend it to any girl. MIM isn't in any way abusive, doesn't cheat, lie, hang out at bars or cuss. (Well, besides a few choice Hindi words!) He has always been attentive, supportive, patient, and caring. It is the only relationship I have ever had where I feel completely comfortable being me. We are equals and best friends and so much alike - despite having such different backgrounds. Yes, I did have to get used to the fact his family would not know about me right away, but I had to bite my lip and understand to the best of my ability how his culture worked. In time, when he knew I was serious and sticking around, he opened up to his family.
Initially I thought all Indian men must be like MIM and I figured if he and I didn't end up working out in the long run I would continue dating Indians. Soon though, I realized it was not because he's Indian that makes him so wonderful, but because he's MIM. I really believe it comes back to his parents and the wonderful job they did raising him. Some cultural and religious influences definitely come into play too, like the respect he gives to others, his dedication to his studies, his avoidance of drugs and alcohol, and being devoted to his family to name only a few.
Because I met and dated MIM in college, I was able to meet a lot of Indian/Pakistani friends of his - both Muslim and Hindu - and get to know them well enough to say it is not the country or religion that makes a man! Many of the guys take part in all the things I just stated MIM does not. Many of them have started relationships with white women knowing ultimately they would have an arranged marriage. Yes, hearts have been broken! I have seen many white girls come and go. Dating an Indian is not a guarantee to life long happiness.
I don't know why some Indian men begin relationships with American women just to turn around and have an arranged marriage. The best answers would come from Indian men themselves and I would love to hear their point of view. Many of the guys I have come to know seem to dread their arranged marriage but ultimately do it for their parents. One of our friends who recently moved back to his home country said to me with such sadness, "Bhabhi, my parents have started looking for a girl for me to marry." MIM has even stated numerous times that after experiencing love with me he can't imagine having an arranged marriage. "What if we don't have chemistry?" He asks; something he has never before thought of until after he experienced love.
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Shyam, why exactly are you looking for an American woman?. Where are you from? Even if you’re in the states, it would be much easier for you to get along with an Indian woman, owing to the cultural compatibility.
I don’t think any of us here specifically chose Indian or American people to have a relationship with. It just happened naturally, we met and we connected well. I didn’t even think that I would ever have any kind of a relationship with an American lady, but I did. I met her online (not through a dating site), talked to her and liked her for the way she is.
I didn’t go out specifically looking for an American lady. We met through work and got along well.
If you’re looking for a serious relationship, then just let it happen, don’t force yourself onto others.
Good luck!
hello! im new in this site… im a catholic a 42 year old woman and wanted an advise, can anybody provide me an answer, regarding having a relationship with a 33 year old hindu guy from bangalore, any against the law from indians’ culture or belief about our relationship and planning to get marry
awaiting your reply
i am looking for a good man email in yahoo
HI….Can we meet?
Hello Jie,
Answering your questions, I wish to express analysing the below points.
1) The cultural things between you and him wont make any hurdle as long as each other sharing and supporting.Thats the quality of unconditional love crossing the borders.
2) Age is just a number as the meaning of true love is all about the true feelings and respect towards each other.
3)Immigrate to USA for any Indian marrying an American citizen is almost next to impossible.So this attempt not to be practised as the laws of USA are very tough to pass through. However its all about the heart of an American who shares the true feelings with an Indian citizen. So Heart of American citizen do not be rattled.Because Majority Americans are large heart and very down to earth with true feelings. They do not pretend or play mind-games. I am here talking about the good American citizen. They will do anything for the people who are honest ,loveable and loyal to them.
4) I live in Bangalore and never travelled to USA.But I and my Ex-Girl friend met accidently in the internet and we become good friends and shared our feelings for each other. We decided to meet in India as she travelled all the way from USA to Bangalore to meet me only.We used to meet every year in India and explore the places in India together being true lovers.Suddenly she was being diagnosied by incurable cancer. But we tried our best together fighting against it with the help of our true love for each other. She was fighting against it and being my girlfriend for 10 years. She felt she lived for 10 yrs with the help of my true love on her than medications….
Because True love can cure anything and overcome every problems…
She was 10 years older than me. But it didnt matter to me. Because I still live with her memories and hoping she became angel watching over me everyday…. Experiencing the true love in one’s life is true blessing of the God. I am lucky the way I got her in my life and her memories will remain until my last breath. This is the truth…
I encourage you to move ahead in the life and not worry about the cultural barriers.Its not a matter to true lovers…
Have a nice day!
Prakash Samy
Prakash
Your story is indeed touching. I feel sorry for you bro. It looks like a film story. Were you already married when you met your ex-girlfriend? If yes, wasn’t there any objection from your wife? Reason being 99% Indian women can’t accept her husband having “true love” for some other woman and he is meeting other women without her knowledge. They call it extra-marital affair.
If you weren’t married then why you both had to wait for 10 years and still spent life like boyfriend and girlfriend? Never had any plans to settle down? Another thing which doesn’t make sense which is, in 10 years you never made any trip to USA? Your story is bit confusing. If you were good friends then the word “True Friendship” is more appropriate. Once we start talking about “True Feelings and Love”, then it is another game already.
Just curious. I may be wrong.
Regards
Jesh,
I wan Bachelor and I am still……..I am not searching a Indian woman or never did so.
We travelled many countries together and I never travelled to USA because I want to make sure that she is not being used by me to enter into USA. At the same time, I dont want to lie against American laws to get visit visa hiding that I wish to visit USA where my girlfriend lives. I also do not want the rejection on my Indian passport by American staffs refusing the visit visa to USA. If USA has its own set of laws, I have my own monopoly not letting any visa refusal on my Indian passport. Other way ,My girlfriend coming to India was available one and it helped alot indeed.
She didnt want me becoming Widower though I asked her to marry in her twilight days making her happy. She simply asked one thing to me keep alive……She asked me to think of her when I suppose had my last breath. I promised her and it would happen undoubtedly with tears in eyes.
Everything happened for a reason by the grace of God…..I think so.
-Prakash
Prakash,
I am so sorry to hear about the incident, I know I cannot possibly feel the pain you’re having but I can understand what you have gone through.
She’s there in your memories and she will always be and I am sure she still loves you whereever she is now…love never dies, it’s immortal.
My deepest prayers for her.
God bless!
Bradc
Thanks for your words and prayers.
I do pray for your happiness!
Have a nice day there!
Prakash
Prakash
Your incident brought tears in my eyes bro. I could feel the pain you had gone through and going through. Probably she knew about her illness. Sorrows are more than happiness in this world. I pray for your happiness and wish that you would meet someone very caring and loving just like her. May God give you all the strength to bear this terrible loss.
Best wishes
Jesh,
Thanks for your words.
Generally Indian women feel losing my girlfriend as a sin or unlucky. But American women understand the value of a man who goes through with terrible time of the life.
Thats why I say from my experience, American women are more understandable and treat the man highly on merit just because of virtues irrespective what culture he is from…
Having a typical American woman as a lifepartner is simply making the life completed one.This is my personal experience….
Here I appeal to all the men who love American women.Please do not ever ignore the American woman saying that she is from America ,difference in age,divorced and cant cope-up the life with an Indian men.Its prejudice to feel thus way and never underestimate any woman just because they are from America. There are plenty of worthy women from America and unknown to the rest of the world. Because There are plenty of good girls in America just waiting for the deserved man of their respective life..
Have a nice day!
Prakash
Jesh,
Thanks you.
Generally Indian women feel losing my girlfriend as a sin or unlucky. But American women understand the value of a man who goes through with terrible time of the life.
Thats why I say from my experience, American women are more understandable and treat the man highly on merit just because of virtues irrespective what culture he is from…
Having a typical American woman as a lifepartner is simply making the life completed one.This is my personal experience….
Here I appeal to all the men who love American women.Please do not ever ignore the American woman saying that she is from America ,difference in age,divorced and cant cope-up the life with an Indian men.Its prejudice to feel thus way and never underestimate any woman just because they are from America. There are plenty of worthy women from America and unknown to the rest of the world. Because There are plenty of good girls in America just waiting for the deserved man of their respective life..
Have a nice day!
Prakash
I met a sweet and wonderful Indian man who lives in India about a month ago over the internet. I was not looking for relationships and I did not pursue him, he pursued me. He never intended to move to America saying he prefers that I go to India, which is ok with me but that is still well down the line. So, I don’t think his primary aim is to get a green card. I have visited India once several months ago and love it so I think I would fit in over time quite well. I am much older than him, 19 years older than him to be exact and I am American. I did not encourage the relationship and tried very hard to discourage his interest. I also felt bad that there are so many beautiful Indian women his age to choose from and I did not want to take him “off the market”. I don’t mean that to sound callous by saying that. I pushed him away time and time again but he professed his love and says he’s never felt this way and he’s seen my pics, we’ve chatted on webcam and we are both crazy about each other. I still can’t help but have some misgivings though because I feel that since he is so young I am doing him a disservice. I don’t know how else to explain. We are compatible in intellect, personality, dreams of the future, we think each other is attractive and his wish is to make my dreams come true for the rest of my life and I want to give him everything he needs also. I have very strong loving feelings for this man and he has the same feelings for me and I do believe in my heart that we love each other truly and would be happy. He says he has talked to his family and they want him to be happy. But, I am also very practical and know there are some hurdles to face down the line but with honest and open communication every step of the way and trust, I think any obstacles could be overcome. I have read so many horror stories about American women and Indian men that, even though he has done his best to convince me that he is genuine, I am still a little worried. And, this relationship is still very new and I’m trying to move slow and do this right. I have always for most of my life had a particular fondness for Indians as I love the culture, food, etc…and have always found Indians to be very attractive. However, I have never in my life pursued a relationship with one because of the reality of arranged marriages. Having read Prakash’s story I feel a bit more confident in this relationship but I’ve been hurt deeply a few times in the past and am overly cautious. My heart is big and when I give it, I give all of it and I want to give everything to this wonderful man. I am healthy, have no diseases, no children by choice, am currently married for 22 years but will be divorcing (mutual decision) and look younger than my “age”. I am also very secure in myself and am very genuine so I have always been very upfront and honest with this man. I am planning to visit him as soon as I possibly can, within the next few months for sure, but in the menatime we talk many times throughout the day and see each other via webcam regularly. Does anyone have any advice they can share? I sincerely appreciate any advice or opinions
Lynn
Hope he’s genuine as a person and true with his feelings for you. However, you’ve known him for just a month. That way, I would still encourage you to be a bit cautious and give this some more time before you jump to a conclusion.
Know him more, do a background check, if possible talk to some of his friends and family members.
I am not trying to scare you, just suggesting that you make sure that he is the right one before you take the leap of faith
Good luck!
Hi Lynn,
I go through your article……It expressed in the best way,how you feel deeply in the heart.You surely deserved to feel the magic of being in love with India and Indian man. When I met my girlfriend, We communicate through email for 3 years without exchanging the pictures. It was something beyond the physical appearance when the true love blossoms between true hearts.This is why we called it as unconditional love!
If your man is aware of American culture as much as he can and able to cope up treating woman wonderfully,There is nothing to worry. Because true love grows with the blend of two cultures and teaching each other and supporting each other during the low times….Simple rule is never give-up and deliver your best to each other. Come on Lynn….You can move on. There are plenty of good people on this earth….and you are one among those…..Indeed!
Anytime you need help, You can always ask me and share with me. I can help you as a good friend. I would be happy helping you…
-Prakash
Hi Lynn!
Reading through your letter over and over, i say that our love story w/ an indian man is almost identical.
Nine months ago, i also met this indian guy thru the net. it was also the time i accidentally stumbled upon this site while i was looking up for similar situations. I was so eager to research more about indian men and their country so i can fully understand this wonderful guy. And like you Lynn, i fell in love w/ this indian man after just a week of constant talking on the net.
But I didn’t tell him that at first coz i even discouraged him also when he first proposed to me because i was never keen on having an online relationship. I too was very cautious after getting my heart broken twice already (include 1 failed marriage). But he was very patient and sweet, he would also professed how much he loves and cares for me, and he even considered me his wife already!
It was so wonderful Lynn! So beautiful and magical experience for me despite the fact that we only meet online. Everyday I would always look forward to seeing him on cam and talking to him about anything. We also shared some common things. Laughed a lot. And everyday my love grew deeper for him.
Days turned to weeks and then turned to months. Deeper and deeper i fell for him that i hardly notice or should i say, hardly minded the small lies i sometimes realized he would put up. Then the broken promises–2x he already planned to visit me (i’m a Filipina by the way). First attempt was last december. I was extremely excited coz it was christmas time and i would finally see him in person! To be met only by none. He didn’t came. And I was so upset and hurt. For days i wasn’t able to come online bcoz of the holiday activities. We didn’t talk. I waited for him to at least call me and explain. He did not. Come to think of it, he never did call me after months of being in a relationship w/ him. He never did even texted me using his mobile. It was always IM. Still i understood and accepted his explanations. Because i love him.
Second attempt to visit was last valentines day. Again he promised and said that this time, he is really coming.
Guess what?
He didn’t.
It was at this moment that i tried hard to set aside my feelings for him and began analyzing my relationship w/ him. From the very start I was open and honest to him. So i told him the rising problem i feel we have. And it was then i realized that he isn’t that sensitive to my feelings. He would always just insist that he’s so much busy w/ his work. That he’s sorry, that he loves me so much and doesn’t want to live w/o me. That i mean a lot to him. That i am not just a past time as i would relate to him . That he’s really happy w/ us. Blah. blah. blah.
I am now really confuse. I’m not sure anymore if he truly loves me like he said and would want to spend the rest of his life w/ me as he professed over and over during this nine months. I see it now that he isn’t actually acting truthfully to what he’s saying. But he always talk sweet and loving and nice.
Lynn, i pray you won’t fall so much to someone like the indian man i am loving now. Yes, please be very cautious and follow Bradc advised.
And as for me,well i will never never get tired of loving.
But one day, i may feel tired to waiting..assuming..saying sorry…and hurting…
Life is beautiful. ^_^
Loree
You may not like this – but I think he’s considering you just as an online fling thingy..nothing more than that. Of course he’s not serious about you (btw, I’ve read your second comment as well) and do you really want to end up spending the rest of your life with someone who cannot live up to his promises at the beginning stages of your relationship.
Here’s what I suggest you do. go on a complete No contact with him, do not contact him via IM, text, calls, emails, FB or anything else. I am pretty sure he will start contacting you and if you don’t respond to his messages for a while, his messages will start getting stronger because he’d start missing his sweet online fling.
Don’t get hung up on him, from where I see it, he’s not serious, he’s just full of blah..get over him
Cheers!
Hi Loree,
I do understand your feelings not able to meet your man. There is always a chance you visiting him. Why didnt you? Perhaps he may not get the visa to visit you in time.
There is always chance of visiting each other .Why you dont try from your end to end the tough time being alone and far away not meeting him in person.
The success is for you and him only. So try from both end to visit each other….
Never give-up in the life!
Prakash
Thank you Prakash for the uplifting words.
I really am holding on, i am understanding and very patient. Though at times i doubt what he’s saying, still when he assured me that he does love me, i believe him.
For me our main problem really is communication. Like nowadays, we hardly meet online anymore because i am also busy w/ work. I have asked him many times to reach me thru text or phone. But he just couldn’t. He never gave me his number, so its impossible for me to contact him. And that’s a big question you know. I feel he’s hiding something. Never also did he show me pics of his parents. Said he’s living alone now to a house provided by the company his working for. And if i have questions to him whatsover, he always have the answers for everything.
I wish to visit India. But my resources are limited. Moreover, he wants to come here first as he said, to get me. Then i’ll accompany him going back to India. Hmmmm…
One thing also, he said last year that he got himself a visa already. If it was true, i guess by now it has already expired w/o getting the chance to use it.
Tell me Prakash, what do you think of my relationship w/ him? Am i the only one who’s committed here? I really don’t know anymore. My head tells my heart now to not expect from him. Or i will be hurt once again.
Will i just leave it to…”come what may?”
Hi everybody, I had some time not writing in this blog, but I was reading every post.
I want to share the end of my love story with my indian man: we were very happy, in spite of this I encouraged hime to get married with an indian girl of same religion, because I’m much older than him (19 years), and I can’t give him children (I don’t want to have more children, I have alredy 3!!!). I promissed I would love him even after marriage. So, he was almost the same by email, but when I went to India he said he couldn’t have sex with me, because it was a bad thing to start his marriage. So I said it was the end, and he said no, please wait for me, I love you, how can I live without you…I came back to India 8 months later, and I forced him to say he will never love me again, and so he did. During this 8 months, he said everyday different things, also when we were together he changed his speach every hour. He asked me to be friends, and I said: how can I be your friend, I can’t trust you, you say different things every time, and he said: you don’t need to trust me to be my friend. This is the meaning of friendship for him…
He wrote 2 or 3 more mails to me, I answered them, and then he didin’t write for my birthday, actually, he didn’t write anymore.
My conclusions about all this story are:
Indian men don’t know how to flirt, because it is not on their culture, so they propose marriage too soon, and say I love you too soon, cause they think this is the way to have sex.
They know how to say beautiful words, and make you feel the queen of queens, but when they want to leave you, they just do it. And everything is finished. They are prepaired to follow their thoughts, no their feelings. I don’t know if this is good or bad, but it’s the way they are.
I know he is not happy in his new life, but he willl adjust. Again, that is what their culture ask them to do.
I’m not trying to say every indian/westerner love story will end this way, of course there are exceptions, but they are just that: exceptions. It’s a milenary culture working here, with all the family manipulating the boy to “do the right thing”, “don’t bring shame to the family”, even for muslim indian: “you will go to hell for eternity”. But, as someone said here, in the end of the day, they make their own desitions
I wanted to tell some girls writing here, they are not alone…
Welcome to the club,
Rubeena
Hi Loree,
Thanks for your effort writting me. I guess you woke-up early in the morning and writting at 5 a.m. It shows great characteristics of you. You are truely understanding and Patient. I am quite sure about this!
I read your message few times and tried my best to understand completely as it is written with soft feelings of you. I know how it is related with your wishes and you deserve making your dreams true with the practical approaches in time.
I strongly prefer effective communication is the key for the successful relationship. I knew American women tend to have good communication and give the best to carry the togetherness with the beloved person. I did experience American woman is wonderful sharing the ups and downs with the communication in time.This helps to stand tall and supportive when spouse feel down or need sort of emotional supports to get rid-off tough times. I do not find there is any specific benefits not giving contact number to you.If there is a certain limitations to attend the phone, It can be clearly said the best time to talk. So that the barriers can be overcome!
I still talk with American friends everyday in the morning as per the prior committment.
Of course!…I dont think hiding something with the partner is good! Its equvalent to dishonesty.Sorry to hurt your feelings.But this is truth!
Its wonderful idea you wish to visit India. I would surely welcome you to do this. Other thought I have I can help you to visit India being my good friend. You know, It doesnt cost more than $ 4000 for visa,Flight tickets…In return I request you to give a speech to orphans and spend ample time with them sharing your knowledge.So that the orphans can get enthusiastic listening your words and learning from your experiences making their own life ambitious and successful one as these kids are without parents and short of motivators.
I would be very happy if you agree to accept my invitation to come to India every year especially sparing your vacation time over here in India.
If the visa is multiple entry visa to America,Its valid for 10 yrs and the person can visit anytime as per own wish in those 10 yrs. If single entry is being given and got expired in 6 months without usage of it, The person can apply for the visa again.Its not a problem. If he is short of money to I can help him financially getting flight tickets to America. I would be so happy if he accepts this to do as I want you to be happy. I know how you feel lonely waiting to be treated in special as you deserve.
He may take atleast a week off to visit you. Why not? If he is ready to do, I give sponsor flight tickets to him to meet you. It would make me so happy same as you would,if it happened in time.
There few experiences I wish to share with you from my personal experience with my Ex-girlfriend.
you may reach me through email meetprakash7@gmail.com
Have a nice day there!
Hello BradC,
I read your advice to Loree.
Without knowing the reality, You cant write-off anybody. If you are correct you have to proof it.
I do not impressed with the way you straightly said Loree is on the wrong lane. How could you say it hurting her feelings? Its a sin to hurt someone’s feelings for wrong reasons being prejudice.
In your words are the fact, She has to see it in front of her eyes about her BF. Thats why I offered my help to visit India. So that she could know that there are real online and respect her feelings based on her high merit.
I do not impressed the way you write off the boy friend of Loree taking advantage that She didnt meet him in person so far.
Loree is matured person and patient too. She knows the right moves. I strongly recommend her to visit India accepting my invitation and proof the wrong critics over her relationship. I would stand tall her to achive her dreams coming true.
Loree is optimistic person and understand the life very well. Its nothing to chase the dreams and see what it stores for her. No wrong chasing the happiness and dreams…We are all human good beings and Loree too!!!
Prakash
I am glad that you’re offering Loree to help come to India and meet her prince charming.
I expressed my opinion based on what she’s described about the person and I hope I am wrong, I hope that he really is a wonderful person, that he really wanted to go there and meet here twice but failed to do so twice because something “more important” or “urgent” came up, that he’s not hiding anything from her and is like an open book to her. I hope he’s very serious about their relationship and has mentioned her to his friends and family.
I really wish and hope all that is true, but so far, based on what she’s said, it doesn’t seem that way. I hope that the person is as wonderful as you
I just want her to make sure that she’s making the right decision coming down to Indian to meet him, especially since she’s mentioned that she has limited resources.
Good luck!
All,
Thank you so much for your comments, stories, experiences, etc… I will be taking it all in and will continue to get to know my sweet Indian man and hope to visit him in 4 months. As far as I can tell he has been honest to me and I have seen pics of his brothers, sisters, mom, dad and dog and we talk several times a day. He has even offered to have me speak to his mother and sister but I have not yet for whatever reason. I will definitely meet them in person when I visit. He does not want to move to US and he has never asked me for money, not that I have much to give anyway but I would not under any circumstances send someone money, no matter what their “hardship” story might be. This would be a big red flag for me.
I could easily do a background check and I even asked him if it would be a problem if I did a background check on him. He said there is no problem but I think he was a little hurt by my question. However, I wanted to approach him about it first to guage his reaction before I spend hundreds of dollars on a background check. So, at this time I do not feel it is necessary to spend the hundreds of dollars on a background check. Like I said, I will be meeting him in person and we plan to spend at least two weeks together. Whether it works out or not I will still enjoy visiting India again because I love India and would relocate there in an instant if the opportunity presents itself. I feel I have nothing to lose except for maybe a few hopes and dreams should this not work out between me and my sweet love. I visited India by myself last September for the first time and experienced no problems. My co-workers & family were much more concerned than I and were worried since I am an attractive, blonde American woman and this was the first time I have traveled alone and so far away. The people I encountered throughout my visit were very kind to me and I felt safe and secure at all times. I did not get scammed, robbed, abused or taken advantage of in any way. I walked on neighborhood streets, main shopping areas, everywhere without incident. I did attract a lot of attention but it was curiosity only and the children especially were so beautiful, always greeting me with huge smiles and wide eyes. I always had a smile on my face and received many, many smiles back. It took a little adjusting to the temperature as it was very hot. Since I respect the culture and understand that Indians are more conservative in dress I wore traditional clothes, such as a kurta over jeans and comfortable sandals which helped a lot with the heat and feeling more welcome. The mosquitoes made me into a feast but I quickly got some replellent and all was well. Finally, I ate to my heart’s content and never once got food poisoning or ill. So, I only have the best of memories. Yes, the government is corrupt, there is a serious lack of sanitation and there are many, many desparately poor people, all of which breaks my heart, but I took all of this in and still love the country regardless.
Anyway, my relationship with this Indian man is really a dream come true as my love for Indians is so great and this man is such a handsome, sweet, kind, romantic and loveable person so I hope and pray it proves out to be everything I, and he, hope for. As each day passes it gets harder to be physically apart but at the same time, we know that our first meeting is getting closer and closer. Patience is not one of my strong traits!
Regardless, I have cautious optimism about this new relationship but as time goes on more truths will be revealed. I am going to go for it but will keep my head firmly planted upon my shoulders.
I hope sharing my current experience may help someone. I know hearing from all of you has helped me tremendously!
Lynn
Glad to know that your first visit to our country went great.
Here’s hoping that your next visit turns out to be an even more pleasant one.
Good luck with everything!
Namaste!
Hi Lynn!
I can’t help but feel so happy for you as I read your letter.
Wishing you all the best and be praying too that you get all your heart desires. Being in love is truly magical! (“,)
And everything (love and relationships) falls into its right places in God’s own heavenly time. For love moves in mysterious ways.
Best of luck! <3
I am Indian man from UK. There are really two types of Indian men who date white/non-Indian women.
The first is the men who have no desire for a relationship and are just using the woman for sex. These type of guys may even fall in love but eventually they will just drop you for an Indian woman.
The second are men who really have fallen in love with you and desperately want to keep you but are fighting the family expectations embedded in him since childhood.
It is important to understand Indian culture for this. In western culture the children “fly the nest” leaving their parents. Traditional Indian men do not leave home we live as one big family. The western man finds his woman on his own and will break all relationships to be with his lover – like a hero.
In Indian culture the hero is a man who forsakes his lover and sacrifices his own lifelong happiness for his duty towards his parents and respects their wishes. This is a key cultural difference which many do not appreciate.
Seen from this perspective the negative connotations that apply as a stereotype for Indian men does not explain the true phenomenon under discussion.
In short – you are not truely with an Indian man unless you have met his parents.
Good luck.
Vinod. (I am married to English woman for 3 years).
Vinod, thank you so much for your input. It’s the most useful thing I’ve read on the subject thus far. It rings true, as it explains a lot about a certain Indian man’s behavior!
this is my first time ever to write on a website, but i am in great need of help.i am american born of romanian and holland background. i grew up in a very abusive childhood and i left home to save my life at 14 years old.i worked three jobs to make it. but i felt lost without family so i married a man i did not love but i knew him for four years before marriage. he is lebanese. and right after marriage he was violent, suspicious, jealous but in a very bad and abusive way. he was so cheap with me. but everything was for him. ok no problem as i am not material person. i wanted to have children so that i could have family to love me. i was a perfect wife, great cook,very clean home, i was always faithful. and i never asked for much. and of course i didnt get much. he was 6 foot 4. and made sure i knew it at all times. i lived 17 years in torture and misery. then one day at an indian resteraunt i met baljit singh. everyone called him ”raj’. he was so sweet and kind to me which was so wonderful because i lived many years in abuse. we sat and he told me the sad story of his life, that he was abandoned by his parents and sent to america at 13 .i cried at his story, i felt his pain run through my veins. well we talked everyday for hours.in person and by phone. i told him my story and he told me to divorce that bad lebanese man. i said how much i wanted to do that but i didnt want to live my life alone. raj told me to get divorced and that he wanted to marry me and be a good husband living a happy peaceful life together. so i got divorced but i went home to miami florida to think things over. raj called me 15 times a day.he told me about his sad life and also about his devout sikhism. he assured me he had no bad habits and that he would love my children as his own. so i came back from miami and we got married and i bought a house for us. i already had a car and furniture and basically everything to start our life.and i made sure he knew that everything was equally ours. soon after marriage i began remodeling the house in all my spare time. i live in an apartment and so does he until the house was finished. we spent a lot of time with the kids and he told them to call him daddy or papa, which they did respectfully. then one day raj says he doesnt want to move into our house. he said he will just come visit. i was shocked .i mean we are married, we have to live together.but raj always made me drop him back to his apartment after movies and outings. so one day i went to his apartment to get the laundry and his computer was open with many pictures of pornography. really bad stuff. i was heartbroken and angry and betrayed. i mean thousands of pictures and videos as i scrolled down. i confronted him back at the resteraunt he said ‘so what if i need it, i need it. i said to him why was he on a dating porn site. he said so what. we argued i left and went back to my apartment and have cried for over two months.i didnt want to live. in fact i did almost die as my heart was acting wierd and pounding me very hard. my three little ones slept near me for over two weeks. they cried almost every day as well. their blood father beat them and burned them now papa raj doesnt want them. thats not the worst of it.my4 yr old told me papa raj had taken videos and pictures of him in the bathroom at the movies. my heart light went out . i finally thought that God sent me a wonderful husband. we were together everyday or on the phone everyday. now i dont even know where he is. his boss,whom ive met, has fired him for what he did to me and the kids. his boss couldnt believe it. but i said it all in front of raj because it was all the truth. everything raj told me about his life was a lie.i do know he is from the punjab region in india.and i know his parents names. but even they dont want him for some reason. i believe raj has a sick obsession with pornography and its not that i didnt do my wifely duties. i did them and i did them well. hes just full of greed for money and any women. i was so shocked because he is 4 ft 10 and not handsome at all, but to me he was the most handsome prince ever. and i loved him completely. people think that because of my looks that i can just go and get anybody, but im not like that. i believe in marriage and i respect it. i respect even the word husband. i went to the resteraunt every night and laid him down on the seats and massaged his tired feet and body for hours. then i take him to his apartment with food.wave goodbye and then drive to the new house to paint and work there till 4 am. i even lost my baby from not sleeping or eating enough. i was lifting 100 pound bags of cement to put marble floors in the house. now i cant bear to even move into the new house. he got all money and he wanted to sell the house and take that too. now we are in divorce proceedings.and im lost. raj told me he is a good punjabi sikh. he said ” on life, one wife, one death”. and i believed him from deep within my bones. now he is planning to be off to marry some woman in canada. he ripped me and my little ones off. took everything without even one tear. but ive cried rivers.i have to sleep on towels because i cry all night most times. i have never in my life stolen or hurt anybody.people tell me im just way too nice, but its in my nature to be nice, but i want some niceness back sometimes.i dont think this world is for me. please for GOD can any kind brother or sister help me understand this kind of human that raj is. and are all punjabi men like this. is it because im older than him by 13 yrs, he is 30. why all the lies. i read that a lot of punjabi men are scamming families in northern india by taking huge dowerys from women and her family then they dump her. please help anybody as im ready to just give up and go home to God….
Dear Lynne
I am so so sorry to hear about your story and I can’t possibly imagine what you’ve been through.
That guy didn’t deserve you, you’re way better than him. So please don’t lose hope, you’re a beautiful person and you will meet someone for whom you’ll be a dream come true. Someone there’s out for you, just a matter of time before you meet the person. But never lose the faith.
You have 3 li’l kids to look after, they have no one but YOU. So you cannot just do anything to leave them alone.
And being an Indian myself, I can say that No, all Punjabis are not like that, in fact, Punjabis are known to be one of the most hardworking and honest classes of people in India and it’s a fact. Raj was just a douchebag, he’s got nothing to do with being a Punjabi or an Indian.
I hope that you get the strength to overcome whatever you’re going through now and get back to your normal life. Of course it’s very hard, but sometimes in life you run into some rogue people that you need to let go off as soon as you can. Just wipe him off from your life completely..no pictures of him, no clothes, no emails, texts, nothing.
Rise up Lynne, Raj was a good riddance for you. Enjoy life and the best gifts you’ve received from God, your 3 beautiful children, live for them, they need you and you need them too
Good luck my friend!
dear bradc,namaste ji,…i give to you my heartfelt thanks for your reply.right now i am in the trauma of my entire life.i pray for an end to my pain. i gave full trust and honesty to raj.i hid nothing and i gave my all.i ran to him immediately anytime he called. i provided full love and understanding to him in everything. i felt his pain as it were my own. i bought him winter clothes when he was cold. i got him shoes, many pairs so his feet would be warm and comfortable.i made my body available to him at all times so he wouldnt need anything from another woman. i laughed at his jokes even though i had heard them all many times. i blew through 130,000 dollars in just 4 months to provide a home for him as he said he was always a homeless boy and man. i comforted him every night so he was never feeling alone or unloved. the children drew pictures for him and my daughter told the class that her papa was a chef and that she was gonna be one too . we took the kids as a family to chuck e cheese and movies. we were always happy and together.but i guess rajs obsession with that stupid pornography was more important than our lovely little family. now i dont trust anyone.if raj can lie so well and look me in the eyes while doing it, i guess anybody can. you see now i have to be alone the rest of my life as i dont like dating. i adore marriage and believe fully that it is a lifetime commitment except where there is extreme abuse and my life is truely in danger as it was with th lebanese man. the lebanese ex-husband tried to take my head off with a machetti for which he is in jail..raj was there and saw this when the police took leby away. raj supported me to leave him and promised on his own precious mothers life that we would be married and share our blessed life forever. but forever to him was only three months of marriage. now im alone with three little ones. and im sure no one will marry now since i will be divorced twice. i am divorcing raj only because of the fact that he took pics and vidoes of my little boy while he was using the bathroom at the movies….i trusted raj. even the other pornography could have been overlooked but there were children there too.. somebodys precious angels were used for this sickness… there were also pictures of my 2 yr old on his phone that were very sickening..i have to keep my little ones safe first. that is number one. of course my husband would always be number one. but not if he is hurting the kids. raj told me so what that he can bye children in india for a dollar. oh my God. the poor unsuspecting families of india. i pray for them because a monster is on his way back to india. raj was sending money to orphanages and i thought what an angel he was. but now i feel it was just a way to get to those children. God where do i turn to with all this load of pain and anguish. before i met raj, there was no joy or color in anything, with him i actually saw the colors of flowers and the blueness of the sky. now everything is gray once again…now it will be gray forever..God help me…my eyes and cheeks have sores from my tears…bradc ji thank you for just writing back..you are an angel sent by God…peace and blessings to you and your family…
Dear Lynne
Thank you so much for your warm wishes.
I read your post above twice to really believe some of what you’re saying about Raj and I still can’t believe how a person could be as disgusting as him, I’d like to believe he’s a mental. And NO he cannot buy children here, if he tries to do that, he’d be rotting behind bars for the rest of his life.
Lynne, I know I can never feel your pain but I can understand your situation and you need to come out of it soon. I agree with Mililani that a little counseling can help you with this too. Go for it, there are certain incidents that happen in our lives that completely breaks us down and during these times, counseling really helps.
My friend, the sky is still blue, the flowers are still colorful and the world is still a beautiful place, you just need to shed the gray “Raj” curtains from your life completely and it would not be long before you can enjoy the world again.
I hope God gives you the strength to get out of this situation soon, from what you’ve described above, I can say that you’re a wonderful person with a golden heart and a great mother.
Keep the faith, never ever lose hope
Peace!
to bradc ji, if you think these things are unbelievable, there is really so much more than this, and its so heartbreaking. i was sooooo shocked by the deception. i thought raj was so pure and religious. we used to sit at night and listen to guru nanaks words on his cell phone while at the resteraunt..and he swore he was a virgin..at 30 , i was proud of him. i had no reason to not believe him as i am not a liar, and im not used to the fact that other people are liars, so of course i believed him. believe me when i say this..raj made me drive him to 7 different stores looking for a really long pillow, called a body pillow, after hours of searching we found one at bed, bath, and beyond. well i thought it would provide him and his neck comfort after a long day..but when i went to do his laundry i found that he had gone out and bought a red velvet pillow case for this body pillow. and it was badly stained..i wont say with what…so i called a psychologist friend of mine. he is also a punjabi sikh. and he told me it seems that raj is a severe sexual deviant and has a severe sexual addiction. and that i can never be of help to raj. these sexual perverts have a problem that is mental and physical.. most times it runs in the family genes..he hid it well from me because i was not aware that these people exist. because my mind doesnt think about these terrible things..there is no place in my life for this unholy behavior..please understand, that i absolutely love making LOVE..but ONLY to my husband under holy marriage.but rajs obsession has nothing to do with being holy. in fact his behavior is ruled by something evil. children are from God, and anyone trying to hurt them, faces the fires of hell, but i thought my love could heal him, i thought my patience and understanding would be an example to him. i thought my body was a precious gift to him. but he is greedy and selfish..he thought well if i can get her,,then i can get others. well, not even one girl ever wanted him..but i looked past all that. i saw a prince..but i was fooled, i am angry at him. but my saddness comes from believing someone so honestly and all his sweet words were lies…he used to say myyyy boooballeeeee..and run to me and hug me..and i squeeze him with my hug from a deep heart..mine was real ,,his was all fake,,thats what hurts the most…so bradc ji..i wont ever say to you something not true..you can believe this person exists..even i dont know why..i called one of his old, numbers from his old phone line .i was hoping to find any family member, so i could get a little help with rajs behavior..but i found an elder indian woman answered the phone. when i spoke to her with my complaint she said she is not his real auntie.. and she told me to go from him…run far from him..i got scared and thanked her ..and i hung up i was stunned..even hi ” family in new jersey” arent really his family, and they dont want to talk to him .so yes bradc ji these people exist..i pray you never meet one…thank you again for your reply..your friend in usa…lynne
my dearest friend and brother,,,the email address that i gave is valid…i presented it when i joined this site…im sorry you had any trouble with it…please try again if u have time…it is bluelake68@hotmail.com i hope u can get through…would love to keep in touch…i can never forget you and prakash…you are angels…because of your guidance and caring…i am alive and well…i am able to overcome this tragedy only because God led me to the both of you…your friendship is my treasure…you r always in my mind and heart…and as my little girl says…thats a pinky promise….it is a promise by connecting the two small last fingers…..love…hugs and prayers…from your sister whom is always wishing you well..
Hi Lynne Morgan,
I’m sure others have told you this, but please get some counseling for yourself and your kids. So you don’t get yourself into another bad situation.
Peace to you!
dear mililani, thank you for your caring advice. i am counseled by priests frequently during this time. i would go to regular counselors but they just say to dump him and move on to a better man..bla, bla, bla..the priests that are helping me through this are married priests, so that i get Gods counsel, not that of people that regard marriage as disposable. when i looked into the eyes of raj on our wedding day, i pledged my everlasting love to him with every last cell in my bones. this is not a case of boyfriend, girlfriend, this was a marriage..and many counselors take a look at me and say ” come one, look at you, you are still young and very beautiful, forget that garbage and find yourself a really good man.” but im like, dont call my husband garbage!!!! even if he is, i dont like anyone to speak ill of him. my love runs deep.. i cant help that..but im pulling strength from even this site. and im thankful to you and to someone called bradc..i get too much happy by your words and care and comfort..i sleep next to my bible everynight, it is next to me where my husband should be…so i do finally believe that God will provide a good husband for me, and that maybe this was a test of my faith..i am not a religiously obsessed person, but i am firm that there is one God, and God has many rooms in his house, enough rooms for faithful people of all nationalities and colors and languages..we are all Gods children, and as our holy Father in heaven our lives are fully ruled by his wishes..our human parents gave fleshly birth to us only by Gods will, and we have to respect them, help them if needed, but we must choose a path that God has set for us..because ultimately it is God we must praise and it is he that we will see on judgement day, not any earthling person will be there, not even our own parents..i believe in God fully and i raise my kids this way..i am installing into them the love and respect for God and the lives of their brothers and sisters here on earth…but i wont force them into marriage to anyone..love can never be forced and have a good outcome. never.. nothing happens by force other wise it breaks..try to force something to open,, or close…it breaks..like a marriage,too much force and the couple will live unhappy and turn to adultry to try to be happy. then broken marriage..i only ever wanted a husband that would never cheat..that is my one single request. i dont care about money. i dont care about material things at all.. i just want true love and clean life with my husband so that we can receive Gods full graces..God hates a liar..ive never read a more true statement. God forgives many things if it is a true mistake..but lying is most detested by God..and cheating falls under this heavy category. thats why i wont ever do it..but raj did even by looking at those photos..im still so hurt ,so im sorry mililani if im going on and on…sorry….thank you once again..your friend lynne
Lynne
I believe you and just like you, I too believe in God and believe that whatever happens, happens for good, irrespective of whether we can see it at that time or not.
That person was a good riddance for you and the good is that you were able to get rid of him soon, before he was able to cause you or your kids any harm.
So feel grateful that you’re able to get rid of this horrible person from your life, from your kids. God saved you all.
And trust me, you will meet that special someone whom you’re destined to be with forever. Someone who will deeply love & respect you for just the way you’re and be a hero to your kids
God bless!
dear bradc ji, i guess i am thankful that this marriage didnt go farther than this..thinking back, i see that raj was never really even nice to me most times. i must have ignored it because i was cloaked in my love for him. raj doesnt know even how to read or write but that didnt matter to me. but he was crazy for money. i remember how he told me his dream that he was a ” million ,tillion man” as he put it. i dreamed of him and he dreamed of cash. so sorry for his pathetic soul. he lost so much. the kids are absolutely beautiful, and so much fun. i have a question for you if i may…do you think any man really would love a woman who was divorced twice,,even though it was really not my fault,, and i have my children could they be loved by another man.. or do men just say no way because of kids and divorced twice. i mean men in general. of any race or color. i really didnt want to live my life alone. but i am a bit scared to trust anyone ever again…men have asked me out in the last two weeks and i say politely that i am married. my divorce is not yet final, and until it is i still respect every last second of it until the judge gives the final order. and i think i need a lot of time to heal. but in general how do men view my situation, and is it just case by case, or are all men programed to just avoid divorced women with children..if you have time to answer, i hope to hear from you..and please stay happy and well..and thank you soooooooo much for your encouragement….a big hug to you…ps can you tell me what part of india you are from…im from miami florida, but i am in ohio right now until the divorce is final.
Hi Lynne
Hope you had a nice weekend.
As for your question on how men could view a situation like that of your’s, I think it would really depend on a case by case basis. There would be men who are single and wouldn’t want to get into a relationship with a divorced woman with kids and then there would be men for whom the marital status (divorced) wouldn’t matter, all it would matter is how much they value you & love you as a person and how much they want you in their lives. But these men may not come along that often, some may fake it though but if you hang around them for a while, you’d notice that it’s fake, they’ll be out there just to have a “good time” and will vanish the moment you think of taking it to the next level with them.
Again there is a big trust factor here – there could be men who’d be genuinely interested in you and like you but could be taken aback by the fact of two divorces, I wouldn’t be surprised if they don’t believe that in both those instances, it was never your fault and both times it was because of your husband. So it might take a while for them to really trust you and believe that you’re really not at fault in either of the cases. Also don’t be offended, if you find that they’re doing a little background check on you even though you’d repeatedly told them that you’re never at fault and tried everything you could to salvage the marriage. If you ever see this happening, be happy that at least the man is serious enough about you so as to carry on a little background check, that would mean he’s considering you seriously and trying to look into the future with you.
As for the kids, I don’t think that would be an issue and anybody in their right sense of mind wouldn’t have anything against them anyways. BUT considering you already have 3 kids, some men might think that you’d not be open to having any more kids with THEM, which means that they’d be deprived of having their OWN kids (considering they already don’t have kids with another woman) and that could be a reason for them to step back.
Lynne, please don’t think that I am trying to discourage you or say that it wouldn’t work. I am just being candid with you and sharing my views on the matter as a man and the ramifications that I see could arising in a situation like this.
I know many people think that it’s fair only to have divorced men settle down with divorced women and vice versa and I don’t subscribe to that idea at all. I think when two people are in love, the past doesn’t matter, all it matters is how the person is NOW and how badly they want to be with each other for the rest of their lives. It’s all about mutual love, trust and respect. I personally know several single men who had married divorced women and now are living a very happy married life.
So to answer your question, it really depends on the person you meet, is he that narrow minded to walk away from you just because you had two failed marriages despite of you being a really wonderful person or is he a person with a big heart to see the REAL you and appreciate you as a person and gracefully embraces you in his life and treat the kids just like his own with lots of love and caring. And believe me, you will come across such a person in your life, they’re rare but they still exist and to be honest, going by whatever you’ve said about yourself so far, I think you shouldn’t settle for anyone who’s less than that anyways. You’re really a wonderful person and you surely deserve a person who’s a class apart from the rest, a real gentleman with a broad mind and a golden heart.
God bless!
P.S – I am from Calcutta
dearest bradc ji,, this past weekend was a bit easier than any ive had in a long time.. and for that i am grateful to you …you cant possibly know how you have helped me..your time and patience have lightened a heavy heart…..i pray one day u can come to usa….i will make a big dinner in your honour…..im a really good cook…..the kids would be so happy to meet you…you have a pure heart…that is the way im raising them too.. please keep in touch…and if u need anthing please contact me atbluelake68@hotmail.com….im on the facebook as well….stay well and happy…God is with you and will bless you as you have helped heal the soul of another human being on this earth…namaste ji…
Hi Lynne
Glad to know that I was able to be of any help, and thank you SO MUCH for the dinner invitation, if I ever make it to FL, I’ll surely get in touch with you and would love to meet you and your beautiful kids one day
I will drop you an email sometimes soon.
Take care!
Hi Lynne,
I tried to drop you an email, but it bounced. Thought of letting you know in case your email is defunct now
Hello Lynne Morgan,
Good morning….
I read your article and thought to share my views and experiences with you.
Of course,You are one of the wonderful person.
Let me point out the positives in you.Passionate-Loyal-True with your conscience-Believe in nemesis-Great Mother for your kids-Good dreamer-Very good chaser of own dreams-willing to bounce back with success and joy-trustworthy – powerful spirit of living with class of love- deserve to be called as one of Lady from Southern State.
Yes,I can still see your virtues the way you conduct yourself and transform the feelings into the words.The texture of your soul is powerful and pure one indeed! Most of the women gave-up or clueless to move ahead in the adversities.
The real strength of relationship is being binded together by the power of pure and uncondtional love excelled by the women. I completely see this trait in you without any second thoughts. In this reard,My money is on your side,no matter what the rest of the world say.
From my last (Infact lost) relationship with my Ex-GF from Southern State, I learnt that the women are tend to move in the life on the basis of emotional feelings and harmonial effects between two real hearts which get close from time to time because of blend of two souls standing together facing thin and thick times. Once you said, You never concerned about the proficiency of a language from your man.It seems very simple in words. …………..If someone lacks this virtue due to unavailability in return, There could tears in his eyes rathar than words from the mouth. You are a typical American woman wearing your heart on your sleeve! This is what I forsee from your expressive words and honesty.
The probability of any man becoming millionaire is possible in the life.Its just next to impossible-But it is possible one. There are conflicts could arise between the couple that there is lack of focus on each other or betrayal with the extra marital relationship. I dare to anyone who could questions with your backround, Lynne is a woman with betrayals by the past partners who completely failed to learn and move with a honourable women. Yes,You are not addicted to Triple M’s.(Money,Material,Man of Muscle).This is a scale of a honourable woman.Now,You are a labour of love for your three wonderful kids.
Whatelse a man look from a woman? Whatelse a man truely need? I wonder how many honourable woman exists in this planet like you. You have shown the consistency of characteristics throughtout your life.No matter ,what you gain or lose interms of financial status.Anyone can become sound financially in the life with least effort. I never see anyone who becomes a great woman in a flash. You carried the value of your lineage showing to the rest of the world.This is a great achievement by you and your kids would love to grow the way you are strong.Perhaps much stronger than you with the help of your motherhood.Why not?
Sunsets meant for the stepping stone of the sunrise in the next morning to wake-up with peace and lots of positivity. There is no point of remorsing from your past -you were true to your conscience and your lifepartner and gave your best in everything practically very hard to do so for such a long time in the western culture.Its not a joke when someone says lived with someone sharing the true feelings and raising three lovely kids. I wont be pleased if anyone internally felt,your life is hanging in the Balance!
Keep your head steady and lift your shoulders up wearing your smile and look at the mirror,Then you will know…How you amazingly sparkle for what you are and how glittering you are!
Life is often being thrown into three C’s.Choice,Chance,Compulsion. Practically we cant grow up sticking with anyone of these three C’s.We eventually get through these and learn manythings of our life playing our own role in every given opportunities. At last we emerge as a rounded person standing tall to deliver our best for the next stage. Changes are inevitable-not the Characteristics of Woman.Thats the way you are made by the God!
Everything happened for a reason and just put your past behind gathering all your courage together.Then this world would know who is Lynne Morgan. The upcoming days are definitely alot greener than you suspect.Yes,Once you had gone through tough times,other side is obviously best time of your life.
I prefer you just be normal.There is unworthy thinking about your divorced once or twice.It just happened in the past and you never planned it.Its all over now! We need to count the optimistic approaches rathar than being pessimisstic.This applies for both men and women. So I dont see you are lesser than other because of two unsuccessful marriages held in the past.
Having the children is Blessed-not cursed to you! If anyone oppose this truth,pass on my contact(email id : meetprakash7@gmail.com) to them, I will take a lesson teaching how good you are in real life.
I was speaking broken English when I met my America GF first time.Over the time,true love made me to speak better English with the her help. I think God made right chance for my case. She was all the way from beautiful Florida.
If you and your kids have the passport, Why dont you all come for a lunch in Sunday with me? I will send the flight tickets to you and your kids. You can have a vacation too in India taking fond memories back to States.
Hopefully you have a good day ahead.
Seeya
Prakash Samy
my dear prakash samy ji, oh my dear Lord, when i read ur words i exploded into tears.. i actually had to run to my room so the kids wouldnt see me cry. i literally soaked a bath towel. i was overcome by emotion that someone on the other side of this world feels and understands my pain..Wow..i will save this comment of yours for life..and i hope to have it in my grasp when i take my final sleep from this world..im crying again ..so sorry…i sometimes wonder why God gave to me such a heart full by deep feelings,, only to be severely damaged by others..but you my friend have given some of your strength to me even from far away..God said that there is no greater love than he who would give his life for another..you have shared a strong and powerful caring that will remain in my deep heart forever..ok im crying again…i give to you my friendship and my blessings to you for a wonderful life blessed by God.. live in life knowing that your words and care truely helped me greatly in overcoming this hardship..no material gift i could give you would ever be enough..so i offer this…my prayers to God will always include you even i havent seen you,, i feel touched by the human being that you are…and yes it would be very nice to meet with you some day..i pray for this…until then please stay well and happy..you are blessed by God himself..namaste ji…your friend in usa…
my email id is meetprakash7@gmail.com
dear prakash i just wanted to write to say i am thinking of you and wishing you well in all aspects of your life.i will always be praying for you and you are dear in my heart…i hope we always stay in touch…i am in your debt for your care and concern for me…again please accept my many thanks…a big hug to you from me and kids…God bless and keep you safe and happy…your sister lynne..
Dear lynne morgan, your story has moved me, I am truly sorry for you. Please be strong for the sake of your children, time is a great healer, soon you will find other reason to be happy. Some men are absolutely devils I am sorry that some Indian men can be like this especially to a kind soul as you. Very bad times are like very good times – they never last, so please hold on and seek councelling with a friend or specialist. My prayers are with you.
Vinod.
I’m going to be brutally honest about how I feel about my boyfriend so here goes. I’m a white american girl but we all know that’s not where anyone truly came from right… Well me and Zaheer are both 30 and he is a Aries I’m a sagittarius we met well over a year ago but just like his culture I hesitated to date him… Come on southern girl right out of the heart of dixie… who would have thunk it…lol but the more he messaged and called my heart started getting heavy… why was I being so mean… or was I. hmmm …. We went for coffee, after about a week another coffee next thing I’m meeting his friends laughing, enjoying the tone of such a beautiful language that.. till this day I have no clue… hehehe but I try… Zaheer knows me better than what family I have left.. he keeps my best interest in mind, sometimes it hurts but in the end he is right. From the getgo I told him my story, married with two children unable to have anymore. He also knows that my mother passed away, I was abused and with the same man for 11 years.. Watching the father of my children get engaged with my ring that I bought for our wedding was hard enough, why he stays bedazzles me.. maybe its the understanding we have but I’ll tell everyone one thing when your Indian love has a few drinks and calls his mamma and puts you on the phone and you here the concern and love in her voice in which she knew little english saying to me “please take care of my son”…. that’s exactly what I’m gonna do and when I go to India to be married to him.. it might take a couple years but I’ll grow on his parents because they will see that I love him, hey if I can put up with him saying “babe sleep now” and “eat something” and he can put up with me being overly emotional then they will know the stars lined up for us :p I never attended on taking him away we met and out of 8 billion people in this world I pick him because he showed me love… His uncle in Cali….might take a bit longer but eventually my name will go from Amanda to Ameena and they will say she isn’t from America she’s Indian.. what can I say if you want it go get it… it is what it is… for those relations that are trying to find answers just don’t think so hard and live in the moment.. just might find your I dream of Jeannie romance. Peace to all <3 Mannie
My name is Tessy, i saw your A D in myindianlove today i become interested in you,i
will also like to know you more,and i want you to send an email to my
email address so i can give you my picture for you to know whom i
am. Here is my email address ( tessymaxwell715@yahoo.com
)i believe we can move from here!I am waiting for your mail to my email
address above. Remember the distance, age color or language does not matter,
but love matters a lot in life your in lovely Tessy
I’m going to be brutally honest about how I feel about my boyfriend so here goes. I’m a white american girl but we all know that’s not where anyone truly came from right… Well me and Zaheer are both 30 and he is a Aries I’m a sagittarius we met well over a year ago but just like his culture I hesitated to date him… Come on southern girl right out of the heart of dixie… who would have thunk it…lol but the more he messaged and called my heart started getting heavy… why was I being so mean… or was I. hmmm …. We went for coffee, after about a week another coffee next thing I’m meeting his friends laughing, enjoying the tone of such a beautiful language that.. till this day I have no clue… hehehe but I try… Zaheer knows me better than what family I have left.. he keeps my best interest in mind, sometimes it hurts but in the end he is right. From the getgo I told him my story, married with two children unable to have anymore. He also knows that my mother passed away, I was abused and with the same man for 11 years.. Watching the father of my children get engaged with my ring that I bought for our wedding was hard enough, why he stays bedazzles me.. maybe its the understanding we have but I’ll tell everyone one thing when your Indian love has a few drinks and calls his mamma and puts you on the phone and you hear the concern and love in her voice in which she knew little english saying to me “please take care of my son”…. that’s exactly what I’m gonna do and when I go to India to be married to him.. it might take a couple years but I’ll grow on his parents because they will see that I love him, hey if I can put up with him saying “babe sleep now” and “eat something” and he can put up with me being overly emotional then they will know the stars lined up for us :p I never attended on taking him away we met and out of 8 billion people in this world I pick him because he showed me love… His uncle in Cali….might take a bit longer but eventually my name will go from Amanda to Ameena and they will say she isn’t from America she’s Indian.. what can I say if you want it go get it… it is what it is… for those relations that are trying to find answers just don’t think so hard and live in the moment.. just might find your I dream of Jeannie romance. Peace to all <3 Mannie
My name is Tessy,i saw your A D in myindianlove today i become interested in you,i
will also like to know you more,and i want you to send an email to my
email address so i can give you my picture for you to know whom i
am. Here is my email address ( tessymaxwell715@yahoo.com
)i believe we can move from here!I am waiting for your mail to my email
address above. Remember the distance, age color or language does not matter,
but love matters a lot in life your in lovely Tessy